I don’t know why I was holding onto old notions of how people find partners.
But once I let go of them, I was able to see online dating as a significant asset in sobriety.
You said you’ve met recently, so I would imagine there’s plenty that you don’t know about each other.
I am all for seeing the best in people and believing that people can improve, but you said it yourself: You’re not sure if you would want to stick around if he relapses.
In the beginning, when it’s all sunshine and sweetness it’s easy to fall for them and expect things to always be that way. In terms of dating an alcoholic, you at least know upfront that he has had a problem with alcohol and he’s taking steps to deal with it.Learning how to date sober was, like everything about sobriety, uncharted territory.There’s a reason people suggest waiting until you have a year sober before you dip a toe into the dating pool.I feel kind of heartless writing that, but I’m thinking in terms of what I would tell my closest female friends or my sister if they asked me what you asked me.There’s nothing wrong with being a supportive friend to him while he figures out his alcohol addiction.