It is also the masculine equilibrium where their body feels the best, and most natural: it is consistent with the masculine person: being in control makes a masculine person more masculine, it doesn’t make him more feminine. “oh I exercise control in all things, miss Steele.” It’s kind of a hot moment.
And it’s portrayed as hot to the audience, in the movie.
This conversation reflects exactly the kind of views many people have in the world, based on my experience.
Specifically, the view that a woman being intelligent is a problem – only because the man wants control over her or because he has a big ego. Men are the ones who try to be in control all the time, and men are driven to like the higher status that being in control brings.
She quickly finds her career successes are an instant turnoff.
Switching tactics, she tells her next partner that she’s a stewardess. That was back in 2000, already well past the heyday of the stay-at-home housewife. economists found that single women in an elite MBA program responded to a career survey with lower salary targets and acceptable levels of work travel if they thought their responses might be visible to their classmates.
But social mores are slow to change, and based on some new research from American and Swedish researchers, ambitious and successful women are—to this day—still penalized in the marriage market. In Sweden—a leader in gender-equity policies—a study found that when women take on leadership positions in politics or business, it doubles their chances of divorce.
“I’ve been told by well-meaning relatives: ‘Don’t talk about work on a date, dumb it down, and it’s bad to earn so much money because guys will be scared of you.’ And I got the word ‘intimidating’ a lot,” said Alexis, a 35-year-old lawyer in San Francisco. Nearly half of single women believe their professional success is intimidating to the men they meet.
Put another way, many high-achieving women think their success is not helping them find love.